Can infidelity on this level ever be forgiven?
My wife recently revealed to me that she has had an account with Lavalife (some online matchmaking service) for the past year and a half. She also revealed that she has been on dates with over 50 men and has slept with more than 20 of them! Supposedly mostly protected sex… Mostly!
I have been married to my wife for over 20 years and never in a million years could I have imagined anything like this. I am freaking out to say the least, and on more than one level. God only knows what she has dragged home with her!
Needless to say, I have been sleeping in the basement for the last couple of days.
I’m not sure where to go from here… Can infidelity on this level ever be forgiven?
Now you know why Lavalife and other online dating services are making a killing, and why women such as your wife need meaningful, or at least time consuming, hobbies.
I don’t think there is even a point in thinking about “forgiving”. She is clearly not right in the head and would therefore not even understand or care about the concept. She’s severely messed up and needs counselling.
I can’t tell you what to do… More than having yourself tested, and re-tested, before your knob falls off — or worse!
One thing though: why are you the one sleeping in the basement? She should be sleeping on a plastic tarp somewhere where she can’t taint anything.
Sorry.
- Dog
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