Would it make me a doormat if I saw him again?
I went on a date with a great man (as I thought). We met at a New Year’s Eve party and he invited me out twice. Both times we had a wonderful time. I could tell that he likes me and of course I liked him too.
On the second date we went out for dinner, and it was easy and fun for us to communicate and there was lot of chemistry. We had such passionate kisses in the car after dinner that the car windows almost got steamy.
A couple of days later he asked if he could see me again — I said, “yes!” of course… But the same night when I went out with my girlfriend for a drink, and what do you think I saw when I walked in? He was at the bar buying a drink for another woman!
After he saw me he looked pretty much shocked! I was in double=shock! He kind of said, “hi!” and kind of introduced me to the other woman. He said he was sort of invited to the bar and the reception that was going on at that time.
I left him alone to be part of the reception, but the whole time he was talking to that other woman, who was very pretty and young. Steam was coming out of my ears! I decided to say something. I walked up to them and nicely asked to borrow “her man” for couple of words and made a “what a hell” face to him. He looked really embarrassed, and he didn’t know what to say… Finally he squeezed words out: “I’m kind of out on a date here, is that bad?”
Me: No, it’s great! It’s wonderful! I am very happy for you! I didn’t realize that you were booked that heavily and I thought you liked me!
Him: I do, I do like you! Can I call you tomorrow and explain everything?
Me: What the hell difference will your call make? Have fun!
And I walked way furious!
He called next day, thanked me for answering the phone and apologized for the absolutely awkward situations we had the night before, and that he was really, really sorry. He said he did not mean to hurt anybody, and it was a burden in his mind for the rest of the night. In a said voice he said that he did not feel that we where not committed at that point, and that he always had a good time with me but didn’t know me that well yet… The conversion ended him saying that he could see me again… Unfortunately he was sound pretty sincere, so I said that if he will make some effort, maybe I would see him again.
He called again later and asked me if he could cook dinner for me… I decided to let him do it, as not let him feel as such a bad guy…
We had the dinner, and of course it went very, very nice again. He was very much gentleman and we were so busy talking about some interesting stuff so it did not feel like bring up our uncomfortable incident again! He kissed me at the end very passionately…
I am pretty sure he will ask me out again… and I would love to go, as I like everything about him. Would that make me a doormat? Or should I make our last date — the last one?
I would love to give him a chance to know me, but will he respect me? What should I tell him?
I’m torn in the decision… I can’t stop thinking about him!
Would it make me a doormat if I saw him again?
Wow! He is good! He will be a legend in his own time! Other men will write songs and poems about him. Unfortunately you will not be around when he is worshiped…
I don’t think it would have made a difference even if you had caught him with his pants around his ankles at the bar…
Whatever I write here won’t make a difference: I think you are match made in heaven! You are incredibly gullible, and he plays an incredibly mean violin…
Thanks for your email! I’m sure it will give other people some perspective, and perhaps even a chuckle or two.
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