What can I say to my beautiful in order to change her mind?
I wrote to “Dear Abby” but she didn’t print my letter. Hopefully, given your generosity you can give me some of your wise advice. I should have written to you first because your advice is clearly superior.
My problem is that my beautiful wife says I try to flatter people and that I’m insincere. She says she is embarrassed by that behaviour and is uncomfortable being in social situations with me.
What can I say to my beautiful in order to change her mind?
The thing is that even poorly conceived flattery (or sucking up) can work amazingly well, but only with weak-minded people. But when the art is perfected, a person may go through life always getting what they want, manipulating anyone that crosses their path.
When I read your wonderfully crafted letter, I got the impression that your wife is not reacting to your flattery per se, but on what you concentrate your efforts? Is it possible that you haven’t reached the Zen level of flattery yet? Poorly thought out flattery can easily become an insult! There are a couple things that should never be talked about by beginner-flatterers because they can easily turn in to a disaster…
Here are three classic textbook examples:
Body odour — Your aroma reminds me of newly fried Swedish meatballs, in they way it makes my mouth water, and my eyes tear up!
Acne — Picasso himself could not have mixed up a more interesting palette of colours, which is your skin. I could stand her all day starring at you and continue discovering new things!
Leg amputee — I love the way you stand-up for yourself… Any people attempting to fight you using logic will quickly find themselves without a leg to stand on, and I’m sure they will kick themselves for even trying!
What I’m trying to say is that flattery can be a mighty weapon, but to be able to swing the broadsword, you must first master the penknife. Start simple (like your wife, mother in-law, friends, boss, cashiers and waiters and waitresses) and slowly work yourself towards the three examples mentioned above.
Focus is the key! Don’t go all over the place — master the basics first and later on people won’t even notice it happening, your wife especially!
I believe you have what it takes, just start slow!
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