Why does he care so much about how I feel for him?
My best friend of 5 years keeps flirting with me, but when I ask him out he always turns me down. He says he only thinks of me as a friend.
I really love him and he knows it. On many occasion I have told him not to do sweet things, as it will only make me want him even more… A few months back when I was involved with another guy, he kept asking if things have changed between us. After I broke up with the other boy, my friend asked me if I loved him…
Sometimes he is very romantic and sometimes very aloof… If he doesn’t love me as he says, then why does he care so much about how I feel for him?
If he only thinks of you as a friend… well, then you have the answer right there! So instead of continue looking at him as the cannoli, you should start consider him to be the mashed potatoes from now on. You don’t go all giddy over mashed potatoes… They are only there as a time-proven reliable condiment to what you are eating at the time.
There is a lot of great cannoli out there; you just have to find one that is right for you… Isn’t it possible that he doing “sweet things” and being “romantic” are in a mashed-potatoes-reality: “nice things” and being “friendly”?
Why not take a break for a couple of months from the mash, and eat fries and rice while looking for that perfect cannoli? With fresh, rested eyes, perhaps your favourite mashed potatoes won’t look all that appetizing any more? If he is really desperate in a few months, and really wants you: he’ll show up with his pants around his ankles — make your decision then.
Don’t waste your time on games…
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