Can you help me sort out this mad and twisted love-soap?
I’m in a truly complicated situation, and I have no idea how to approach it.
I’m in love with Michael who is in love with Annie, who in turn is madly in love with Pete who in turn loves Sara. To add another kink to this odd chain of love: Sara is smitten with me!
I’m not sure how to get Michael let Sara down without causing her undue grief at the same time…
Can you help me sort out this mad and twisted love-soap?
It’s not really all that complicated. To break a chain you need to find the weakest link… and perhaps it’s you, as you are the one obsessing about this?
I wouldn’t normally help someone break anything, but the chain you described is not a very productive one as everyone is miserable. Sometimes it’s easier to take something down and build it up from scratch than trying to fix an all-together crooked thing…
This is what you can do to end the madness:
Make good friends with Sara but without being “that” kind of good… Sara must see you as a good friend only… However, your friendship has to be good enough so that Pete and everyone else thinks you ladies are more than really good friends… This will break the link between you and Sara and between Pete and her, in one shot! In fact the whole chain will start falling apart at this point, as their love interest are no longer “there”.
When the chain is in pieces, approach Michael… Who will find (like any man on the planet would) it really exciting that that you and Sara are more than really good friends, and that he is being invited to be more than a really good friend to both of you! That’s your “in” and you just have to make it work from there…
You are welcome!
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