Can we save our long distance relationship?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We’ve been back and forth between Indiana and Ohio. He’s currently going to school in Ohio and I’m in Indiana. Since he’s been there I’ve told him twice I’d move there and then changed my mind. I then broke up with him for a couple days because he suggested separating and seeing other people. He explained it, as he wanted me to see “what else is out there”. But we ended up getting back together…
He’s my first serious boyfriend since we’ve been together 4 years. To make matters worse, I’ve had a huge crush on this guy I work with for a year now, and I think about him all the time. My boyfriend has gotten mad at me once before because of a small one-month crush I had on an old friend, so I’m afraid to mention this guy. I really like this guy and it’s hard to try and get over him when I see him almost every day, and I rarely see my boyfriend.
I’ve had people tell me this guy likes me and he’s done things that make me think so too. I’m not sure if it’s just the fantasy of being with someone else or what it is, but I do love my boyfriend. I’m struggling over what to do because I told him I’d move there in march and now I’m starting to change my mind again and he’s told me if I don’t do it this time, we’re done.
Can we save our long distance relationship?
Clearly the distance between you two, is causing some tension and doubts… However, that is not an excuse for ultimatums such as “move here or we’re done!” That’s rather weak, I think. You guys need to learn how to compromise.
You say you love your boyfriend — and a “crush is a crush, is a crush…” Simply giving up on 4 years because of a crush (or because you are horny) is not all that brilliant. So what if this one guy “likes” you… Girl, I bet that there are a lot of guys out there who would “likes” to stuff your turkey — is it worth giving up on 4 years for that?
The problem seems to be the distance between you. Why not try to close it and see if it will all work out? If it doesn’t, well at least you gave it a fair chance. Also mentioning this other guy to your boyfriend serves no purpose what so ever…
What kind of great stuff did you think that would accomplish?
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