Am I just being totally thick and scared of accepting what he is doing?
Four months ago I walked in on my husband and a girl he works with. I found them standing very close, with her head leaning into his chest. All the curtains had been closed in his office, and the key was left in the lock so I couldn’t get in. Let’s say it was unexpected when I came in through the back door… They looked shocked when they saw me — he dived onto his seat to put his t=shirt on, and she sat down quickly. He said she was looking at his tattoos.
I later find text messages on his phone to her, one reading “same time as I will tell Sarah (me)”. We split-up on and off for a few weeks… Then I found a video recording on his phone of her sitting outside a pub in the summer — he scans from her face, down to her boobs, and down to her “you know what” and then slowly back up again.
He said he had cut all contact with her just before Christmas — then he disappeared for a weekend when he went on an old works night out… Where she worked! He called his mums while I was there, and was acting very defensive. A couple of days later I phoned the number he’d called from — this girl answered the phone. She had got a new mobile number and “apparently” she only went out with him and other workmates on the Saturday, and he didn’t spend the weekend with her…
I have always trusted him 100% and knowing him the way I feel I do, I believe he would never cheat on me this way. I know he has lied about staying in contact with her, and that the facts point coldly towards an affair. Yet as aware as I am that it’s more than likely an affair — I believe more so that he hasn’t because he is normally so genuine, caring, and thoughtful to a fault.
Am I just being totally thick and scared of accepting what he is doing?
Yes, you are being incredibly thick. Why scared now? How about getting pissed off first?
She checking out his “tattoos”, text messages, video “moments” and mysterious disappearances on weekends… Yes, he is having an affair! Actually, “affair” sounds too classy — he’s boning this woman behind you back,.. You have been relagated to “spare hole”. Clear enough?
Why not confront the girl? She has no idea what you know or don’t know… It should be easy enough to find out the truth if you play them against each other.
You are a woman — you be evil and conniving like other women too — dig deep!
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