How do I fire my maid of honour?
I will be getting married in March 2008 and the person I chose as maid of honour doesn’t seem to be as interested or involved in the wedding as I would like her to be. She has a medical condition that she uses as an excuse all the time. And she also hasn’t talked to me in 2 months.
When I emailed her and gave her the option to step down because of the time involve in the preparation of the wedding, and how her health is more important, she said she would still be the maid of honour. I keep stating how much time and energy is going to be involved hoping she will give up the position but she insists she can do it.
Even though this is my second marriage (my fiance’s first), I still want this to be a special occasion. I just don’t want her to show up the day of the wedding saying how she doesn’t feel well, or worse yet, not show up at all (which has happened on other special occasions in my life).
How do I go about asking her to step down without hurting her feelings or making her mad? I really need someone who is going to be reliable and have the energy to help me get things done. So I guess… How do I fire my made of honour?
The wedding is 9 months away, and the maid of honour is already involved? It must be one heck of a wedding you are planning… Or are you perhaps obsessing a tinsy bit?
If you haven’t spoken to her in 2 months, is it really such a big deal if she gets a bit “miffed” if you find someone else? Do you really care?
No matter what you say, I’m sure there will be some “quetching” so why not give it to her straight? Simply tell here that there is a lot of work to be done, and you are not seeing the right “effort” from her side, and that you will have to find someone that has the time needed.
An other alternative: get some sedatives!
But the true reality check is… This is your second marriage now: you helped fuck up the first one. Why do you need a maid of honour in the first place? Honour, commitment, pride, sacred vows, etc. doesn’t mean anything to you, as you are now taking a second whack at the mole… Why don’t you simply do a drive-thru wedding? It will solve all your problems.
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