I have been dating a man for 3 years. We have both been married before. In every other way he is committed to me, but has not asked me to marry him, even though I have made it very clear that I desire a permanent commitment from him.
Should I give him a time frame, such as, if you are unable/unwilling to ask me to marry you by a specific date, I am going to take a break from the relationship? Why has he not asked me to marry him yet?
You have to work him if you want the title of “wife” on paper… Reassure and work him like he was a puppy humping the last pillow on the planet! You also better make it really good for him (better than a pillow…) He was there once already. Men don’t re-marry as often as women for a reason: men can only take so much nagging, and a Filipino maid is cheaper than a wife.
You have also only been involved for 3 years — that’s nothing! I bet he has underwear in his drawer that his ex-wife bought him that are older than your relationship!
To put it bluntly: if you could shoot ping-pong balls across the room using your vagina, you would have a rock the size of a tennis ball on your finger right now…
This website isn’t really a place for dialogue (try the forums instead) but I’m curious as to why you want to get married? You have been “there” already and it didn’t work out… Why is marriage so important to you, and what’s different this time around?
Marriage in general doesn’t change what you have already. Yes, it might perhaps help with social and economical things, but it doesn’t make things more permanent. It doesn’t make what you have already any better, does it?
Sure go ahead, set a date… Nothing is more nurturing than having an axe having over you head…
Don’t you guys talk?
- Dog
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