Do you think it’s ok to allow my daughter to date this man?
My daughter (17) and I are close and she tells me about everything that goes on in her life. She is smart and well-adjusted young woman that’s getting decent grades in school, and she has never been in any kind of trouble.
Recently she has revealed to me that she has feelings for this sales rep that frequents the business where she works evenings, a couple of times a week. The feelings are mutual, as I understand. Well, she is considering taking their budding relationship to the next level, which is serious dating (with all that it entails).
She feels that she wants to see if there is something “there”. This would normally be how it all works, but I hesitate as he is 32 years old. I have met the man once and he seems to be a nice guy.
As her friend I wish her to be happy, but I’m just not sure about this because of the age difference between the two. I’m consider allowing it under certain restrictions, such as curfews and not staying the night etc.
Do you think it’s ok to allow my daughter to date this man?
Ohhh… *sigh*
Your question is flawed… You should have asked: “Do you think it’s ok to pimp out my daughter to an older man?”
First of all, she is not telling you about everything that goes on in her life… She is 17 years old!
She has never been in any kind of trouble or she has never been caught doing anything inappropriate? Woman, she is 17 years old!
The feelings are mutual? He is a 32-year-old man and she is a 17-year-old girl… Granted, she is one year from being 18, but at the same time she is also only one year passed being a child. There’s absolutely nothing that would make the two equals in that relationship (unless he’s suffering from retardation and has the mental capacity and experience of a 17-year-old).
So, you met him once and you found him “nice”… He is preying on your daughter and he is NICE!? What’s the matter with you? He wasn’t being NICE… He was being SNEAKY!
You are also not her “friend”… You are her mother! Guide her and teach her to avoid situations where she will be taken advantage of!
Where is her father in all this? Is he also just a “friend”? He will set you both straight if he is a parent! If he’s man, he will also set this predator straight!
Curfews and not allowing her to stay the night will accomplish absolutely nothing! You don’t think she can be taken advantage of while the sun is out?
You don’t need to take my word for any if this… Why don’t you and your husband have a serious discussion with the man? If you ask him about (and question) his feelings and motivations, you will quickly see how pathetic he really is.
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