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I know I’m an irrational, jealous and controlling person. Whenever my boyfriend goes out with his mates, I always imagine him cheating on me with some other woman. We always end up fighting about it before he goes out.

How can I learn to trust my boyfriend?

As you yourself know you that you’re being irrationally jealous and controlling — stop! If you don’t know how to deal with it yourself — seek counselling! Your boyfriend will only have so much patience do deal with your neurosis.

Him being pissed off and disappointed in you every time he leaves the house is probably not what you want to see, if you wish him to stay away from other women. Trust me, he will start looking at options when he has had his fill of crap from you. However, as is customary in monogamous relationships, he will probably dump your sorry butt before acting on it.

Here’s the thing; nothing you say will stop him from doing something he wishes to do. It doesn’t work with a 2-year-old, and it certainly won’t work with a grown man, especially if an opportunity presents itself with a woman that doesn’t nag and is willing to get naked.

Don’t make youself one of many options — be the only option! Be a lover — not a bitch…

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