What can I tell them to make them understand?
I laughed when I heard that my dad had died. Worse, it happened in front of friends and family. My dad and I didn’t get along all that well, but I didn’t hate him!
I didn’t mean to laugh, it just happened!
Everyone is treating my like an outcast now, even though I’m telling them that I didn’t mean to do it.
What can I tell them to make then understand?
Sorry to hear about your woes…
Death, and real, honest and happy laughing normally only happens when it involves a circus lion and a clown… Laughing (as a joyful expression) is a rather disturbing behaviour in any other horrific scenario, even if it involves hate.
However, some people laugh when they are nervous or stressed. It’s a physical reaction to help the body deal with what is going on: heart rate, tension etc. Same as some people scream when they are afraid, or cry when they are sad.
You family and friends judging you in that horrible situation could simply be that for some of them it was easier to express anger towards you, than sorrow for the passing of your dad.
What can you tell them? Tell them the truth: you were nervous and stressed and it was merely a physical reaction, and that you weren’t laughing because you were happy of the news.
These people judging you are truly weak people if they can’t get over themselves. And if your dad happened to be a clown that go eaten by a circus lion — they don’t have a sense of humour.
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