How can I make my dad understand how I feel?
I’m 16 and want to be with this 21-year-old guy that lives nearby. My dad got mad when I told him about it. He’s saying that the age difference is too big, even though the age difference between him and my mom is also 5 years!
He’s saying that all 21-year-old guys are the same and only after one thing, but it’s not true, as this one is really mature and cool. Besides, what says that I would need to have sex with him?
How can I make my dad understand how I feel?
Why would it matter to him how you feel? You are only 16 and should play with children your own age… This way you are less likely to get hurt, and end up being a crusty sock for some unscrupulous dude to use.
Your dad knows better in this case, because he was a 21-year-old once. He also knows a lot of guys that were 21 once… Granted, most 21-year-olds are not cradle robbers, but yeah, they are all basically the same.
Trust me, only a 16-year-old would find him “mature” and “cool”… Any given grown-up will call him “weak” and “pathetic”. The age difference in this case is huge because your age group is immature and naive, which is painfully obvious from your mail.
You said “Besides, what says that I would need to have sex with him?” The thing is that you have no “will” and no “presence” at 16. You can be manipulated as easily as a 7-year-old. Your statement means nothing as you can me made to agree to anything, which is the only reason why this 21-year-old is preying on you.
When you are 30 and have pushed a 12-pounder through your birth canal, you will realize how sadly immature you were at 16.
Not staying away would be a huge mistake on your part… It will also merely be one of many if you don’t learn to listen and learn from people that know better.
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