How can I tell if he’s interested in dating or not?
I have always been in to this guy next door. We have of course known of each other and said “hello” and things (as friends), but nothing more than that. The main reason being that he’s a couple of years older than me (I’m 15 now).
He is known for dating girls for a little bit and then dumping them. Basically he has a new girlfriends every other week.
Now he has started talking to me, saying that he would like to date me but that he’s afraid that he’s going to mess it up, because he cares for me. He says he has never had real feelings for other girls and it’s scaring him. He says he loves me but that we should take it slow as he’s afraid of commitment.
I’m not sure what’s going in here? Why is he afraid of me?
How can I tell if he’s interested in dating or not?
You sweet, naive and innocent girl…. He’s playing you!
He’s “afraid to mess it up”, “cares for you”, “never had real feelings before”, “it’s scaring him”, “loves you” and “afraid of commitment” are all part of the set-up, so he can have his way with you until he’s bored (which won’t take long).
He is looking for you to be a shut-your-mouth-tidy-over-relationship (S.Y.M.T.O.R.) The lines were delivered with only one purpose in mind: to get you on your back, and to keep you on your back until something better and more worthwhile comes along.
As he’s a couple of years older than you (18 or older) he really doesn’t see anything interesting about you. Seriously, the intellect of any given 15-year-old is as intriguing as crap stuck under tables in public places. You are merely an easy member of the female sex (with holes).
The fact that he is willing to pray on a underage “friend” (or someone that grew up close to him) tells me that he’s selfish, immature and a irrational. In this particular circumstance they are all sociopathic tendencies…
You should stay as far away as possible from him or you will end up used and hurt. I would also suggest that you talk to your parent about him…
In any case, it’s always advisable to play with kids your own age.
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- Dog
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