How do I get him to be honest and straightforward with me?
I’ve known this guy for a year. We work together. He’s really sweet, funny and responsible. He’s 20 and I’m 19.
He started talking to me more than 2 months ago. He gave me his phone number and started flirting with me — staring at me at work, and telling me things such as “wanting to get to know me”.
Early on, we talked quite a bit over the phone and I felt like there was a connection there. However, after a while he stopped calling me and he was making up excuses why he didn’t remember, or couldn’t, call me. At work were avoiding and ignoring each other…
Not to long ago he asked me join him at a friend’s house. The visit was laid back and casual. That night when he was dropping me off at my house, I told him in very simple terms how I felt: “I really like you…” He said: “Ok…” That’s it! He didn’t seem positively or negatively surprised, we just hugged goodnight as usual, and I got out of the car.
I don’t know what to think of all this? He didn’t give me an answer!
How do I get him to be honest and straightforward with me?
He might be really sweet, funny and responsible, but he sure seems to have a tiny heart or a tiny brain… I’m not sure which… Leaving someone hanging like that is weak.
Why is he acting the way he his? Well, it could be any number of reasons:
- He’s emotionally immature and it’s game for him.
- He has a girlfriend (or is working on someone else (you are plan B)).
- He’s not sure how to proceed because he’s shy or inexperienced.
- Add your theory here.
Girl, you have to step up and sort things out — talk to him! Don’t give him a chance to be ambiguous or to back away. Ask direct questions that can only be answered with a “Yes” or a “No”.
Example.
- Do you like me? (Good). This encourages a yes, or no answer…
- What do you think of me? (Bad) This encourages fluff…
Demand answers! If he keep fluffing away — invest your time in something or someone more rewarding.
Perhaps he’ll contact you again, if you take a “break” from him; be direct again if he does! Don’t allow him to be ambiguous!
He’s clearly useless with it comes to you both. If you really care, stop wasting your time and just sort it out!
- Dog
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