Does it always hurt to lose your virginity?
Hello! My name is Sara and I live in L.A.
I’m afraid to lose my virginity! I haven’t had sex with my boyfriend yet because I’m afraid that it will hurt… I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now, and I’m running out of excuses!
I’m 19 and I haven’t had sex yet because the idea of pain freaks me out!
Does it always hurt to lose your virginity?
It hurt like a son of a bitch for me when I lost my virginity because my girlfriend was a face biter. However, it was all very worth it!
Billions of women have lost their virginity through history… The experience was I’m sure, very different for each and every one. It’s one of those passages of life that all women will have to go through eventually.
Will it hurt for you? I have no freaking idea… So many different factors play in to the experience. When it will hurt for sure:
- Your boyfriend is hung like a horse.
- Your boyfriend goes at you like a puppy on a pillow.
- Your boyfriend has no freaking clue what he’s doing.
- Your boyfriend has long toe and fingernails.
- Your boyfriend screams out another woman’s name…
Surely, you must have a ladyfriend that can give you a few personal pointers? You live in L.A. for God’s sake — hardly a magical realm of purity and virginity.
- Dog
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It hurt me the first time I had sex but it’s a bearable pain, slight burning then as it goes on, it gets easier. Just try and relax and have a bit of foreplay
Trust me, everything will go fine if he knows what he’s doing. Maybe it will hurt you, maybe not, but you’re not going to no know unless you try. If it does hurt and you feel you can’t go on — tell him to stop and take a 10 minute break and try again. Lube helps a lot too, don’t be afraid to ask for it.
Good luck!