Should I give him another chance even though he hurt me?
I’m having an affair with a married man. We see each other every other month or so (he lives in another city, and we meet when he has business here).
He seemed different the last time we met, he didn’t talk much and we didn’t do anything but have sex basically. My problem is that he was very aggressive when we had sex and he was hurting me. I repeatedly asked him to slow down, but that only made him crazier! It hurt a lot and I was crying but he didn’t stop. He said he was sorry afterwards but I don’t think he really meant it.
I’m not sure what to do about him now? He’s asked to see me again in a couple of weeks, but I’m a little scared now. He has always been a nice guy so I don’t know what changed?
Should I give him another chance even though he hurt me?
You say he’s a “nice guy”… I would love to hear your definition of “bad guy”. Woman, he is a parasite — a scary, dangerous and self-serving parasite! He is using you… He is hurting you…
You are not “having an affair”… To him you are nothing more than a spare hole (probably one out of many) in another city. How is this a healthy and constructive relationship for you? If you see nothing wrong with this situation — see a shrink!
You are scared and still consider seeing him? Come on… Grow the hell up!
Cut all ties with him right away. No need to explain anything to him (he doesn’t give a dammed about your thought and ideas anyway).
Your options:
- Find yourself a real boyfriend, because he’s not one.
- Start charging him by the hour (make sure you have pimp (or friend) in the next room, to ensure your physical safety).
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