How can I instil respect and fear?
My friends think I’m soft. I have tried to bulk up and act a little tougher, but it’s not working. There is nothing I want more than to break free from my designated pen!
Do you understand what I’m trying to say here?
How can I instil respect and fear? I don’t want to hurt anyone or anything like that but I can’t go on being nothing.
I hear you loud and clear… You are confused and immature.
Fear?
Respect and fear are opposites in a real and sensible world.
Some dictionary definitions:
Respect — The state of being regarded with honor or esteem.
Fear — Feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence of danger.
Small-minded people easily confuse the two…
You wrote, “… bulk up and act a little tougher…” I interpret that as you trying to become some sort a “tough guy”. Being bigger doesn’t automatically instil respect or fear. You are just physically a bit bigger. Getting bigger is easy: simply lift heavy things every day!
Fear is also a piece of cake… French kiss a leper to contract the disease and people will freak out when you come around. You could also cause or threaten someone with physical harm. It’s easy! Anyone can do it.
Gaining the respect of others is more difficult as it has nothing to do with you. It’s other people’s perception of you. In one way or another, you will have to affect people in a good way, in order to gain their respect.
Here are two other dictionary definitions to ponder:
Pathetic — Arousing sympathetic sadness and compassion.
Confused — Being unable to think with clarity or act with understanding and intelligence.
You are a kid. You have no idea what you are yet…
What you need to do is grow up a little bit and try to be as good of a person as possible. Why not also pour your energy in to something meaningful? Do good things and you will see that people’s perception of you will change. Worrying about childish name-calling is a complete waste of time.
- Dog
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